Quite recently, a particular subject has caught my attention. It has to do with the way we act; more specifically it’s about how both different genders react, what makes us tick. I am of course referring to our hormones; the things that make us react to our environment in a particular way and respond differently to different stimuli. These hormones are the things that make us intolerable and (at the same time) irresistible to our opposite sex. If we could just understand these things, we might just give each other the space we need and cope a whole lot better, our relationships would improve tenfold. There are two main hormones, testosterone and oxytocin. The first one is the male hormone and the second one is the female hormone. To say things in a manner in which everybody can understand one could say testosterone is what makes men efficient, but “lazy” and that oxytocin is what makes women have a very maternal and nurturing nature and that urge to serve. Ok, now I will explain why I say these things about each hormone.
According to author John Gray (Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars), testosterone makes men able to do work all day and to provide with what needs to be done, but doing this depletes it. In order to regenerate testosterone, a man must… rest. On the other hand, the women’s hormone is more tricky and complex. Oxytocin is drained when a woman serves someone in any way, again, that urge to serve. When oxytocin is depleted, stress dissipates and the woman feels more relaxed, but in order to regenerate oxytocin, is not as easy as resting like it is for men. Oxytocin only regenerates when a woman is serviced, hugged, kissed, or complemented on. So, in a way, we could say that we are meant for each other. After the man works, he rests. While he rests, the woman would serve him in any way she can, thus reducing her stress levels. After the man rests, he gets back to nurturing and tending to the woman so her oxytocin regenerates and then the cycle can start over again.
After learning all this, I stopped and realized, all of this is true. Observing my friends and the way they act. Once in a while a woman’s nurturing “chip” turns on and they start being nice and do favors for you. And mothers, of course, no matter how tired they are or how battered they feel, they always have that urge to serve and nurture those they love. I’ve seen this behavior to the extent that they do almost nothing for themselves; all they do is for others. That can’t be healthy, but it’s the way they got designed, I guess. On my end, however, I don’t really feel all that empowered by testosterone, because there are times that I really don’t want to do anything and feel very tired, but I haven’t done anything at all. So I guess, I could have an overdose of testosterone due to too much rest. But I could say, in my experience, that testosterone gives you that desire to be able to provide to others, to give you a sense of importance in the environment you are in. It gives you the strength and ability to do many things, but not the urge to do them.
So after revealing this great deal of information, one can’t help but realize that is has risen up more questions than answers. For instance, if we are aware if the effects of these hormones on our behavior, will be able to administer them more efficiently? Will we be able to be more compassionate and/or understanding with others? Are there other ways to regenerate these hormones so that we may get it back faster? Why does the level of testosterone imply certain side-effects whilst oxytocin does not? Or does it? I hope I can find the answers to these questions while I continue with this research, but in the meantime, let’s see what the real problem is. I believe my subject for my research is: Hormones, they don’t make us better than the other, just, in our own unique way, different.
I believe this last statement is true. Male or female, we are not better than the other, we are simply different. And my guess is that at the end of this research paper, both me and anyone else who manages to read this will be extremely enlightened. I don’t know why I am so intrigued by this subject, I just know it’s going to be lots of fun writing this paper and in the end I would have given the world some useful information (I think). And if not, than this knowledge will be just as good to have for my own information. Considering that the hormones are like some sort of programming in our DNA, it’s pretty cool to think of them as chips, which are activated when the conditions are ripe for the circumstances. Imagine, if oxytocin makes us want to assist or help and testosterone makes us efficient and strong, could someone who doesn’t care for helping anyone have low levels of both? This is just some food for thought. Hopefully all the answers to these questions will be found and the truth of it all will be revealed.